Mommy Confession: I need a mom tribe

mom-tribeA friend posted another blogger’s post about finding a mom tribe, and it really resonated with me–and numerous others judging by the comments her share received.  You see, I didn’t realize how isolating being a mom can be, nor did I realize how much I would wish for my own mom tribe.

With the birth of BK, our social calendar completely changed.  I didn’t think it would; I underestimated my desire to keep the baby on schedule and to actually get some sleep at night!

Even now when the children are 5 & 3 and their grandparents keep them overnight, my social life is far from what is was pre-children.  Sure, we take the opportunity to get together with friends who don’t have children, but I’m ready to go home and go to bed by 10:00 now!  After 5 years of motherhood, I just want to catch up on some of that sleep those darling Keller Kids have cost me!

For some reason, I also thought that motherhood would instantly unite me with other mothers of children the same age as my children.  I envisioned play dates with several other moms and their children; the children happily playing or crafting away while the we moms sat back, chatted, and proudly watched our little people.  Somehow, that hasn’t been my reality.  For this, I mostly blame my job.  You see, the mom groups in the area that I’ve looked at joining meet during the week–while I’m at work.  So, no magic mom tribe happening there.

Ultimately, I think my lack of mom tribe is my own fault.  I’ve let the treadmill of life get in the way:  we work and run a few errands during the week, and I clean and try to catch up with the household items like a mad lady on the weekends.  Friendships take work, and I’ve completely failed at reaching out to other moms and arranging events.

Some might be wondering what exactly a mom tribe is.  Shoot, I guess I’m kind of wondering that, too, since I don’t actually belong to one!  To me, it’s a group of friends who can bounce parenting ideas off of one another, feel safe that their personal discussions won’t turn into gossip, and who can just get together and have fun!  Ladies who drop by and don’t care that your coffee table is dusty and fingerprint smeared.  Ladies whose children can be just as wild as my own!

I have friends, obviously, but I’ve let those bonds weaken.  That’s on me.  I used to be the planner, and I’ve not been planning too many social events lately.

Of course, I have Mr. Keller, but husbands aren’t really meant to be best friends.  They’re husbands:  a relationship with its own level of emotional intimacy.

I’m developing a plan of attack!  I’m setting up lunch dates with friends.  I’m going to put myself out there and talk to more moms at my children’s events.  I am going to start making more effort, and I sure hope it pays off!  If you feel like me, know that I’m cheering you on, too!  Shoot, if you feel the same way I do, let me know!  We could do lunch or set up a play date with kids!

Wrong Woman

I have a confession:  I think Mr. Keller married the wrong woman!

If you’ve been reading my blog, you’ve probably realized by now that Mr. Keller enjoys agriculture.  He likes driving tractors, working on them, planting and harvesting our farm, baling hay, and taking care of the cows  I enjoy domestic hobbies like cooking, baking, reading, and gardening, and in spite of growing up on another little mini farm, I have absolutely no experience in driving tractors–not even rider lawn mowers.

Wrong Woman

Chad running the baler

In spite of my lack of agricultural interest, I found myself driving a tractor this past week.  Not only was I driving a tractor, I was running the baler and pulling the hay rack that Mr. Keller and the kids were on.  Me!  Running the baler!

For the first thirty minutes or so as I drove the tractor through the field, all I could think is that clearly Mr. Keller either married the wrong woman or he needs to make more friends who can help him!  After that point, I reminded myself that Mr. Keller needed my help, and I could do this.

wrong woman

It’s a family affair

We got the baling done, and I even felt proud to have assisted.  I’m nottelling anyone where the field is that we baled, though, because if you checked, you’ll find a lot of hay on the ground yet.  It turns out that I’m not very good at turns!  Mr. Keller had me completely worried.  He told me before we started that I had to take wide turns (whatever that means when you’re pulling a baler and a hay rack!) in order to avoid harming the PTO shaft.  I took wide turns, but I left about half of each line of hay whenever I turned.  Regardless, we still baled more than 100 bales that night!  Not bad for my first time.

I’m not really the wrong woman for Mr. Keller.  I just have to expand my skillset.  I’m sure I can handle it–at least until BK is old enough to drive the tractor on his own!  Marriage is all about being one another’s helpmates.  It sometimes means going out of one’s comfort zone, and I certainly did that!

wrong woman

BK looking down the field

21 Day Fix Update

I made it through the 21 Day Fix21 Day Fix.  Well, sort of.  I cheated–a little bit.

For those who may not remember, 21 Day Fix is a Beach Body workout and eating plan.  As the name suggests, it lasts for 21 days (just enough time to form a habit!).  When you sign up, you receive 2 work out DVDs with a different workout to do each day of the week, and you receive several containers for your meals.  The meal containers are actually probably the most important part if you’re doing this program for weight loss.  The containers help the user understand portion size and proper nutrition.  The number of containers that you are permitted to use each day is dependent upon  your weight at the start of the program.

I found the container system to be handy and easy.  I actually found the meal plan very easy to stick with during the week.  I had a vanilla Shakeology shake for breakfast.  My first attempt at mixing the shake, I just used water (no ice), and I didn’t like it at all!  The second time, I blended some ice in the drink, and I found it much more to my liking.  Then, I would have plain Greek yogurt with a little squirt of honey for a mid-morning snack.  Lunch always consisted of a mixed greens salad with feta cheese, a little rotisserie chicken, and fruit on  top.  I tried the salad dressing recipes that the program suggests and didn’t like them at all, but I actually like salad without dressing so I just skipped the dressing altogether.  Mid-afternoon snack was usually a few whole wheat crackers and cheese.  Dinner was often a salad again.

Food is where I cheated, however.  I was extremely good for the first week and a half of the program, but during the second weekend of it, I found myself snacking.  I ate an entire sleeve of Girl Scout Thin Mint cookies!  That wasn’t exactly part of the meal plan!  So, snacks were definitely my down fall.

The exercise programs were challenging, but not too challenging.  I enjoyed the fact that it was a different one each day.  Each workout has it’s own challenges and worked on different parts of the body.  The first week, I was pretty sore, but it got better after that.

Now that my 21 days is up, I intend to keep going!  I won’t be as strict with the food, but I do plan to stick pretty close to the plan.  The program has made me start to feel more fit and healthy, and that’s a feeling that I like!  I don’t want it to just vanish!

The results:  I only lost a couple of pounds; however, I wish that I had taken my measurements.  I am very sure that I lost several inches as my favorite pants are now a little loose.  I can also visibly see a difference when looking at myself in the mirror.  With more focus, I’m sure that I can continue my journey towards fitness!

 

Zucchini Chips
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One healthy snack that I enjoyed during the 21 Day Fix was these zucchini chips!
Servings Prep Time
1 15 minutes
Cook Time Passive Time
2 hours 2 hours
Servings Prep Time
1 15 minutes
Cook Time Passive Time
2 hours 2 hours
Zucchini Chips
Print Recipe
One healthy snack that I enjoyed during the 21 Day Fix was these zucchini chips!
Servings Prep Time
1 15 minutes
Cook Time Passive Time
2 hours 2 hours
Servings Prep Time
1 15 minutes
Cook Time Passive Time
2 hours 2 hours
Ingredients
Servings:
Instructions
  1. Preheat oven 225 degrees fahrenheit
  2. thinly slice the zucchini into rounds
  3. Press zucchini between a couple of paper towels in order to draw out some of the moisture
  4. place zucchini rounds, olive oil, salt, and additional spices (I liked my chips spicy!) in a gallon size ziplock bag. Zip the bag and shake it all up to mix
  5. place newly seasoned zucchini rounds onto a greased sheet pan (I just gave it a quick spray with Pam non-sticking cooking spray). Spread the rounds out so that they're lined up neatly and not on top of one another
  6. Bake zucchini rounds on sheet pan for about 2 hours or until crisp. Time could be a little more or a little less depending upon thickness of zucchini rounds
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21 Day Fix

21 Day FixI’ve signed up for the 21 Day Fix program through Beach Body!  Lately, I have noticed a little extra padding and slightly tighter fitting pants.  I wanted to just blame the weather and even argued with myself that the extra padding would surely disappear when the sun started to make its appearance more often.  Then, reality hit me:  I’m not going to lose this extra padding as long as my habits stay the same.  The weather warming up will surely make me more active outside, but will it help me to cut back on my snacking?  Probably not.  I had to admit to myself that I wasn’t likely to meet my goals without some help.

My Goals

21 Day FixWhat are my goals?  First, I want to get my meal proportions back down to where they should be.  I’ve noticed that I’ve been eating more and more lately, and that definitely has to stop!  You can’t outrun your fork!

I also need to get back into shape.  I walk almost daily at work, but that only adds up to 1 or 2 miles a day.  I also ride a stationary bike nearly daily for 4-6 miles, but those are really pretty mild activities.  They definitely aren’t getting me back into shape!  When I look in the mirror, I hope to see a much more toned body!

What is the 21 Day Fix?

The 21 Day Fix program is just the program for me!  First, it’s not a diet!  Of course, how often do you hear that?!  It’s also really not a quick fix kind of thing (the name is really just marketing at work, I think!).  21 Day Fix is a program that makes portion control easy and combines it with a set of 7 different workouts.

The portion control part of the 21 Day Fix program is about as easy as it gets!  No calorie counting!  You just use the portion containers that come with the program!  You calculate the number of containers you can use per day by using your starting weight.  For me, I get 3 veggie containers, 2 fruit, 4 protein, 2 starch, 1 healthy fat or cheese, and 1 nut/dressing container.  It’s so easy!  The program comes with a few recipes, but there are tons of them on Pinterest!  In fact, you can check out my Pinterest board, if you’d like!

As I mentioned, the 21 Day Fix comes with 7 different workouts:  Total Body Cardio, Upper Fix, Lower Fix, Pilates Fix, Cardio Fix, Dirty 30, and Yoga Fix.  They each only last 30 minutes, though I hear that they’re no walk in the park!  During the 21 days that the program lasts, you do not get a rest day, but the Yoga and Pilates days are considered lighter work outs.

You may be wondering why it’s a 21 day program as opposed to something longer.  The idea is that it takes 21 days to develop a habit.  As a result, you should develop a habit of working out for 30 minutes a day and you’ll become used to keeping your portions in control.

My program will arrive in the mail on Wednesday, and I am super excited!  If you’re interested in signing up, feel free to reach out to my Beach Body coach, Kaycee Majerus.  She has been a huge help answering my questions and getting me started!

Wish me luck!  I am absolutely determined to stay motivated!